Before the conversation:

1. Before either of you begins speaking, pray for wisdom. She needs to hear from God, and you need to share his wisdom. 
2. Prepare to listen and remember to look her in the eyes so she knows she is seen and heard, not judged. 
3. Check your body language and welcome her with a smile. It is a simple concept, but she reads your body language and decides how much she trusts you.

During the conversation:

1. Let her say what she needs to say without interruption. Take notes if you need to remember what to say after she finishes. Do not cut her off. 
2. Ask questions that will lead her to think through the situation and allow her to process the next steps. 
3. If she needs to be corrected, say it with love and compassion. Point her to Scripture. God is her judge, not you. 
4. Often, girls want to know they are not alone or the first to experience what they are experiencing. Tell them about someone in the Bible who lived through a similar situation or a personal example from your life.

After the conversation:

1. Thank her for trusting you. Ask how you can continue to support her as she works through the next steps. 
2. Pray for her right there on the spot, and then commit to continue to pray for her.
3. A couple of days after the conversation, text her to check in and reassure her that you are still praying for her. If needed, encourage her to pursue the next steps or hold her accountable for the changes she needs to make.